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Abandoned, Anger, Child, Divorce, Father, Indifference, Replacement
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When a parent decides to replace you, their child, with a whole new family and you don’t hear from them for many years, you finally get over it and move on with your life, resigned to the fact that it’s over.
You go through the phase of guilt, because it could have been something you’d done, then realise no, it’s because they just wished to leave and start afresh. You feel sorrow, because they’ve replaced you and you obviously weren’t good enough. Then you feel indifference, because they’ve made their choice and you’ve become accustomed to their leaving.
Then when their ‘new’ family breaks up, they come crawling back and insist that they haven’t been in touch because you never contacted them. This is when you feel anger, you tried numerous times to touch base with them, but they didn’t care. You feel pity at their cowardice and deceitful nature and refuse to acknowledge their return and then you feel forgiveness, but do not forget, because if they’ve done this once they’ll do it again all the while not one apology for leaving in the first place.
Well you made your bed old man, you sleep in it.
The Marital Saga 
Ohhh I’ve been there, I was only 19… So I was angry. But hey, she was 20 years younger than him, with blonde hair, blue eyes and Russian, straight out of Russia. The internet bride is doing fabulous. They are still together ten years later and have children the same age as mine. At least I always have something to talk about Hehehe.
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See that’s upsetting, it’s such a selfish thing to do to you and your family all so he can ‘have a bit’. The fact that your little humans have an aunty/uncle their own age is confusing enough, that’s if they know them though ;).
Over the past year I’ve been training myself to call him by his name instead of dad and somehow it’s become natural. The indifference is by far my favourite emotion out of lot. I’m not bitter, I’m apathetic :).
Thank you for your comment Melissa, I’m humbled by how much feedback has been received for this blog! Jill
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Haha yeah! It doesn’t bother me anymore. My current phase is acceptance… And I know to have no expectations, therefore not disappointments 🙂
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